The Canadian Immigration Taboo: Those Who Go Back Home

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Gatineau, February 2012

Each year, about 250,000 immigrants from all around the world are granted permanent residence in Canada. For most of these newcomers, it’s the beginning of a new life after a several month-long or even several year-long wait.

And each year, an undisclosed number of permanent residents decide to go back home. Each immigrant has its own reason for kissing the “Canadian dream” goodbye, and these reasons are sometimes hard to express. Some immigrants are ashamed of going home, some are bullied into thinking that they didn’t try hard enough, and other are so resentful that nothing constructive comes out of their comments.

All immigrants go through a phase in which they hate Canada. Sometimes it happens during the lengthy immigration process: it’s hard to keep faith when you have to deal with so many administrative requirements, and when your life is pretty much put on hold waiting for someone to take a decision about your future. When I was into the process, I clearly remembered thinking that if my application was sent back to me again, I was heading back to France because I was sick and tired of that nonsense.

The rejection stage can also occur after the “honeymoon period”, when reality kicks in. Yes, Canada is fucking cold (or fucking humid, depending on the season). Yes, some Canadians don’t like immigrants. Yes, some employers are narrow-minded. Yes, the food may have been better back home. But most people eventually overcome this phase and settle down into a routine in their new country, as they become more familiar with it.

But for some immigrants, life Canada doesn’t turn out as good as expected. Life happens.

As a French, I was lucky to be able to spend almost two years in Canada before deciding to apply for permanent residence. During these two years, I “tested out” the country, started working, made friends, etc. But a lot of people from the so-called “developing countries” aren’t that lucky and can’t even get a tourist visa to visit the country they plan to immigrate to.

This can lead to a lot of issues because no matter how much you read about Canada and how prepared you are, you won’t know if the country is right for you until you actually experience it yourself.

So what can you do if you don’t see any other solution but going back home?

  • Take a deep breath and talk to other immigrants. Most will have experienced what you are going through. Try to see whether you are simply going through a “rejection phase” or whether the issues are deeper.
  • Consider moving to another province, or another city. Provinces each have their own culture and “vibe”, and as a permanent resident, you can live anywhere in Canada. Even if you apply for permanent residence through the Quebec program, you do not have to stay in Quebec if it doesn’t work out for you.
  • Remember that you can lose your permanent residence if you do not meet the residency requirements, i.e. being physically present in Canada for at least two years in every five-year period. You may not think much of it if you are sure you don’t want to live in Canada anymore, but I do know immigrants who regretted losing their permanent residence status. And if you do lose it, you have to start the immigration process from scratch.
  • Consider how long you have to wait until being eligible for citizenship. Of course, becoming a Canadian citizen may not be your goal if you do not want to live in Canada anymore. But it’s still a major milestone and can offer you new opportunities. If you are a few months’ short of meeting the requirements, keep that in mind before heading home.
  • Talk about your experience. It may be hard to be objective at first but sharing the “lessons learned” will help other immigrants deciding whether Canada is right for them.

Have you ever considered going back home? Did you go through a “rejection phase” in your new country?


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French woman in English Canada. World citizen, new mom, traveler, translator, writer and photographer. Looking for comrades to start a new revolution.


  1. Hi.
    I guess 50% of new immigrants to Canada like living here and the rest don’t. I belong to the latter group. I went to Canada for a better future, to earn money to support my family, and to live a safe and happy life. Unfortunately, my Canadian dream got over in just 2 months.
    I left my family and went to Canada alone. I loved it for the first few days. It’s a very beautiful and safe place to live. People follow rules and respect each other’s privacy. The weather is good (In Vancouver). However, once I started to get used to it, everything seemed normal (no more excited to see cleanliness, friendliness, etc).
    The real challenge which I faced was getting a good (or at least an ‘ok’) job. The jobs available here are mostly for people who are not well educated. My profession is regulated in Canada, so I decided to change my sector. I was successful to get an entry level job in my target sector. But soon I realized that this job will take me nowhere because of the minimum wage paid along with part time work. People of all ages were working at the same position for years. In few days, I decided to come back to my family and live with them again.
    I felt cheated, lonely, homesick, and depressed while staying in Canada. It’s hard to make friends there. People don’t care about others. Taxes are high. Employers pay pathetic wages. Transportation is expensive and so is grocery. I regret going there and losing my job, money, and time for this deceiving dream. I wish nobody faces the same problems again.

    • Are you still in Canada or did you go home? Did you know that your profession was regulated before you moved?

      It’s always sad to hear that expectations aren’t meet and indeed, it is hard to start a new life abroad, far from family, in a different culture. Would you be open to living somewhere else in Canada? How do you see your future?

    • Hello Regret and Zhu, I read this blog post and these comments with interest. I am a producer at CBC Radio for a show called Out in the Open, and I’m looking to speak to a Canadian immigrant who decided to go back to their home country. Regret (the person who told their story above), I would love to speak to you if you’re interested. My email is Thank you so much!

  2. I came back to my home country 2 months ago. Yes, I knew that my profession was regulated but I was prepared to change the sector. However, the wages were so low and cost of living so high that it was hard to survive. The employers are very clever. They rarely hire full time workers to save benefits and higher wages.
    I thought of moving to my friend in Calgary(from Vancouver), the province is in recession and my friend is jobless.
    My future: Don’t know. I’m struggling to get a job now in my homeland. Lost half of my savings already.
    What a nightmare Canada was. Ruined my life.

    • This sucks. It’s really the kind of difficult stories many prospective immigrants should know about to weight pros and cons. I hope you find your way back on track!

  3. I was in Montreal on a Study Permit- dealing with immigration was an absolute nightmare; i went through a very deep depression due to bureaucratic disorganization (papers being sent late or with mistakes). Because of this depression i would be 3 months late to graduate: i applied for an extension with documents from a doctor proving my depression then guess what? They revoked my permit. I had to break up with my boyfriend, sell all my things and leave after spending over $100,000 and being so close to getting my degree. It almost ruined my life. My experience immigrating to Canada was awful, painful, tedious, and a complete waste of time and money. When i think about it, my heart falls into my stomach. I think everyone thinking of going is better off staying where they are.

    • Hello Nada, I read this blog post and these comments with interest. I am a producer at CBC Radio in Toronto for a national show called Out in the Open, and I’m looking to speak to a Canadian immigrant who decided to go back to their home country. Nada, I would love to speak to you if you’re interested. My email is Thank you so much!

  4. I had an awful start when i came to Canada in April 2013, initially in Calgary and then in Edmonton. Even coming with two Master’s Degree in Computer Science with Management, I started working in Edmonton as a Business Analyst, 2.5 months after landing in the country. Eventually I was laid off in March 2016. Since then I came to Toronto to pursue my Master’s (now completed) and till date, I have got a lot of interview opportunities, but no job in sight. However I had considered going back to Canada in May, but want to wait to apply for my citizenship. But the lessons I have learnt so far.

    1. The situation has been worse since April 2016, and since I was not getting a job anywhere despite having Canadian experience, I had to improve on my profile (with another Master’s)

    2. Taking Education in Canada is important. The Employers value your worth based on investment you make

    3. it is important to be aware of market trends, employment services in Canada, before you come.

    4. it takes time and money to invest and reap the fruits from Volunteering and networking / coffee chats. They didn’t work for me, but for most of Canadian – it works.

    • I’m really sorry you had a hard time and that you were laid off. That’s an awful experience, and unfortunately, a common one in North America. I’ve seen many people being laid off and it has nothing to do with their value or skills.

      I completely agree, it takes a lot of time to enjoy the benefit of having a network and volunteer experience. These are all excellent points.

      You sound like a smart person, very practical and logical. I’d be surprised if you don’t get your chance soon. What would be your dream position?

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