Stephanie, a“Frozen African” in Canada

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Stephanie and Guillaume

The Happy Couple

Meet our “frozen African”, a new permanent resident in Russell, Ontario! She was born and raised in Ivory Coast, then spend 13 years in the US. This is where she met G., the Canadian prince charming.

She decided to move to Canada and applied for permanent resident through the sponsorship program. Sixteen months later, she settled in Canada… pregnant!

She blogs about her pregnancy and her new life and Canada on The Frozen African. You can also follow her on Instagram.

1)         Why did you decide to immi­grate to Canada?

For love! I know, such a cheesy answer…

I met my husband in Baltimore, MD, in October 2011 while he was on a two-year work assignment. We dated for 6 months. We knew we were made for each other after discussing our short- and long-term goals. Eventually, I decided to move to Canada when his assignment was up.

He proposed on Cinco de Mayo, and we planned to move in together a few weeks later, but he got called back to Ottawa early. We were devastated (translation: I was crying my eyes out!). We had to cancel our deposits for our wedding that we had planned for February 2013).

Instead, we started gathering paperwork for the family sponsorship process, got married in July 2012, and eventually sent our big bulky application to Mississauga in October 2012.

2)         Did you find the immi­gra­tion process difficult?

I think the immigration process was pretty straightforward—it’s just that we are asked so many personal questions (basically, you have to disclose your whole life story). We had to make sure we did not make any mistakes while filling out the application. We did hire an immigration lawyer because we were a bit paranoid and wanted everything to be perfect.

We applied under the family sponsorship category (my processing office was Dakar, Senegal as I am still an Ivorian citizen even though I lived in the US for 13 years). The whole process (from sending the application to receiving my permanent residency status) took 16 months.

I believe we were lucky (and blessed) because when we applied, this visa office had an average processing time of 25 months! The wait was pretty tough and challenging, but totally worth it now that we live together in the same house.

3)         How do you feel about having your first child in Canada?

Actually pretty excited/scared/nervous! I am happy that my husband and I are finally together physically while going through this pregnancy (we found out we were pregnant when I was still in the US and we hadn’t heard yet regarding my PR). We decided to have a home birth so this is a new adventure for us. Being new to the Canadian healthcare system, I am eager to see how it plays out as I am close to giving birth in September. The whole pregnant/motherhood thing is pretty new to me and my husband swears that parenting in Canada is different (i.e. education, health, etc…) from the US.

4)         Where did you learn English?

I learned English when I was in kindergarten in Ivory Coast and continued all the way to elementary school. Then, I moved to Baltimore, due to civil unrest, and I had to “re-learn” English because, when I was talking to my classmates, I used “British” English rather than American English. There is nothing like people laughing at you in class when you use “rubber” in a sentence (in the UK, it’s an “eraser”, not a “condom”!)

5)         How do you find the cost of living compared to your home country?

The cost of living is a bit higher in Canada than in the US because of the taxes. Gas and groceries are cheaper in the US. However, the cost of living is cheaper in Ivory Coast.

6)         What has been your biggest culture shock so far?

I experienced two culture shocks!

One, Canadian tends to be friendlier, but a bit reserved at times when it comes to friendships. It is frustrating when trying to make new friends, but I decided to take it day by day.

Second, food quality seems to be better in Canada. For example, for years I believed that I was lactose intolerant while living in the US so I avoided cow milk like the plague and stuck to soy or almond milk. Since coming to Ottawa, I realized cow milk here tastes better and I have no reaction to it. Heck! Nutella made in Canada tastes better than the one made in the US and this is coming from a Nutella addict! I know it seems silly to talk about food, but it really made me question to quality of the food I have been ingesting when I was in the US, and how unhealthy it was.

7)         What aspect of life in Canada did you adopt right away?

Being able to speak and read in French a lot more than when I was in the US (i.e. at work, seeing roads signs, etc…)

8)         What’s one thing you don’t like in Canada?

WINTER! I hate cold weather.

9)         What’s the best part about living in Gatineau?

Living in the same house with my husband. I know it sounds cheesy, but after being separated for so long, it feels so good. Also, parts of Ottawa reminds me Baltimore and Washington D.C. which somewhat brings a comforting feeling.

10)      What advice would you give to someone starting the immigration process?

  • Be prepared to wait. Given processing times are average, it can take longer.
  • Think twice before getting a lawyer. If your situation is complicated, please do. If not, some places have free immigration clinics where you can get advice on your case. Also, there is lots of advice on forums and immigration blogs. Make sure they are legit.
  • Make sure you DOUBLE, TRIPLE CHECK ALL OF THE PAPERWORK because it is important to make sure you are not missing anything. Make copies of everything just in case.
  • If you are moving for a significant other, make sure you keep communicating about everything. It is tough and you need each other to get through this crazy process. Allow yourself to cry once in a while, just don’t give up.
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French woman in English Canada. World citizen, new mom, traveler, translator, writer and photographer. Looking for comrades to start a new revolution.

8 Comments

  1. I love ‘The Frozen African’! I laughed aloud when I heard what Stephanie had written about a rubber/eraser and had to tell Luke – that is so true! I find it interesting to read about the quality of food here vs the US though – in England all GM foods have to be labelled (compared with here), which I really don’t like. I know there are large debates (and even protests in downtown Hamilton) about this, but it had always made me consider that Canadian food was of a lower quality than British food (renowned for being ‘health and safety’ conscious).

    • I find food is pretty good in Canada. We have access to lots of fresh produces. Yes, there is junk food but unlike in some places in the US, we have so much variety of food!

      I love hearing about these BE/American English misunderstandings 😆

  2. Winter seems a huge problem for many people in canada !!! Fly oversea like birds guys… sometimes I dream about winter in my night time, or I put the climatization on just to feel the pleasure of a big hot cover on me !!!

      • Oui ! Depuis qu’on est arrivé en france, la pluie fait changer tous nos programmes et c’est vraiment énervant…. michoco avait vraiment envie d’aller au square et lui il ne connait pas “il pleut, on ne peut pas sortir”, la crise ce matin…
        Kindle acheté ! Mais impossible de te laisser une reponse sur l’autre article… d’ailleurs je ne reçois jamais de notifications à tes reponses…. je dois retourner dans chasue article un par un 🙁 et je reçois les notifications de tes articles un fois tous les… 3-4 articles..

  3. Haha, Steph! It’s so true. Canadian’s are SO friendly but I’ve always described it to the Brits at home as “it’s easy to make acquaintances here but not so easy to transition into friendship”. I wish I were closer to you, we’d hang out often!

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