I laughed when I tore off the September sheet from the calendar. My in-laws wrote “Mark’s birthday”—or rather “Mark 生日”—on the calendar above my desk. I mean, who do you think gave birth exactly? Do you really think I’d forget my son’s birthday? And why don’t I get a reminder for Feng’s birthday, the day before Mark’s?

This Thanksgiving Monday, Mark turned eight and wiser.

Mark asks me a lot of questions about us these days—where I lived when I was at university, why I came to Canada, when was the last time I failed at something and how I dealt with it, why I’m not shy when I chat with strangers, how I made friends, what I like best and what makes me happy.

He changed a lot this year. He is a pretty amazing kid—kind, polite, enthusiastic, funny, smart, as sarcastic as us but also empathetic. “Tough day, mom? Not too tired?” He understands a lot about the world, people, life. He expresses his feeling very well. Sometimes I have to pinch myself because I clearly remember sleepless nights, tantrums and a many frustrating moments along the way.

I still have no idea what we did right or wrong but I love this kid. Yes, even when he hides the tablet because he heard me coming, when he talks back or when he cries after losing a poker game with Feng.

“Mommy, what’s the coolest thing you’ve ever made?”

“You.”

“No, you answer the question fir—… oh, I get it. Wow. Thank you.”

You’re welcome, Mark.

Helpful reminder from my in-laws, "Mark's birthday" written on my calendar
Helpful reminder from my in-laws, “Mark’s birthday” written on my calendar
Mark's birthday wish list
Mark’s birthday wish list
Mark turning 8 on October 12, 2020
Mark turning 8 on October 12, 2020
Mark turning 8 on October 12, 2020
Mark turning 8 on October 12, 2020
Mark turning 8 on October 12, 2020
Mark turning 8 on October 12, 2020
Mark turning 8 on October 12, 2020
Mark turning 8 on October 12, 2020
Mark turning 8 on October 12, 2020
Mark turning 8 on October 12, 2020
Mark turning 8 on October 12, 2020
Mark turning 8 on October 12, 2020
Mark turning 8 on October 12, 2020
Mark turning 8 on October 12, 2020
Mark turning 8 on October 12, 2020
Mark turning 8 on October 12, 2020
Mark turning 8 on October 12, 2020
Mark turning 8 on October 12, 2020

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8 Comments

  1. Fran October 13, 2020 at 3:48 am

    Wow, he’s growing into a fine young man. Happy birthday Mark!!

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    1. Zhu October 14, 2020 at 3:43 am

      Thank you on his behalf!

      Reply
  2. Shandara October 13, 2020 at 7:24 pm

    Happy birthday Mark! I love the card.. you were inspired! 😀

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    1. Zhu October 14, 2020 at 3:43 am

      😆 We love birthday cards in the family, Mark made pretty cool ones for me.

      Reply
  3. Kiky October 15, 2020 at 12:27 am

    I read your blog since Mark was 4, I feel like watching my nephew grow up! hahahah
    Selamat Ulang Tahun, Mark! warm wishes from the other side of the world, it is 30 degrees here! 😉

    Reply
    1. Zhu October 16, 2020 at 3:02 am

      It’s funny how much you get to know people over the year. Well, I’m happy to report you didn’t age at all!

      Reply
  4. Cynthia October 15, 2020 at 8:21 pm

    Wow time flies so fast, he’s grown so much ! I hope he enjoyed his birthday even though there are sadly no parties.

    Reply
    1. Zhu October 16, 2020 at 3:13 am

      He hasn’t been introduced to the concept of birthday parties with friends yet, so no regrets 😉

      Reply

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